Taking Care of Self + Partner is Taking Care of Baby

Little things all add up to big results.

I’ve been talking about why it’s important to put yourself first and prioritize your relationship. It sounds counterintuitive or even unnatural when you say it out loud, but doing those two things first makes taking care of a baby so much easier. It’s really worth a try.

Something I hear many moms say is that they worry about whether they’re doing this parenting thing right. Well, in my opinion, if you’re worried about it, that’s a good indicator that you’re doing just fine.

Not because of the worry itself—because we all know that worry can be a real disruptor to enjoying and getting on with our lives. Worry isn’t always healthy or productive. But, what it tells me is that you’re a self-reflective person who is always striving to do better. THAT is why I think this is a good sign that you’re on the right track. (If you didn’t ever question your parenting, I might be a little more concerned.)

And guess what supports a momma who is self-reflective and always strives to do better? That’s right—taking care of yourself first and making sure your parenting partner is both supported and supporting you. It’s all about doing “small things often.”

Now, let’s review how we make that happen:

• Take Care of Yourself First and Foremost

Prioritize the basics: morning and bedtime routines, hygiene, and self-care. Reflect on what you need in each moment and do your best to meet those needs. Forgive yourself for imperfections; nobody does everything perfectly.

• Nurture Your Relationship with Your Partner

Ensure you’re checking in with each other weekly, honoring each other’s roles in parenting and running the household, and asking for help when needed. Model good communication and problem-solving for your kids. Make time to enjoy each other—there's a reason you got into this together, and that connection needs nurturing just like anything else.

• Re-Evaluate Where You Have Choices

Reclaim your time for what truly matters to you. Let go of what no longer serves you and ask for the help you need. Don’t wait for someone else to notice you need assistance.

• Remember: It’s Easier When You’re Supported

Taking care of a baby is much easier when you and your partner are happy, healthy, and well-supported. Watch your baby thrive when they are cared for by two content and balanced parents.