What Real Moms Wish They Knew Before They Had Kids

Parenthood throws us a lot of curve balls.  Particularly in the first year of baby’s life, but really, the surprises never stop. Hindsight really is everything. What wisdom had I been missing out on at the time by simply not asking others what threw them for a loop? I wonder what the women in my own circles would say they wish they had known about before they became moms?  So, I decided to kick off a conversation.

The Forever Question Review

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Have you been thinking about having another baby and not sure if you should take the leap?

After having our son, I clearly remember being totally unsure if we should “risk” having another.  He was pretty easy. He started sleeping through the night at 11 months, he ate his vegetables, he was mild mannered and super social so he actually helped my husband and I meet new friends and our neighbors.  He made us laugh and brought a lot of joy to our lives.  And laughing is always good.

You can’t get lucky twice right?

We decided to roll the dice. She came and she still doesn't always sleep through the night, will only eat vegetables if she decides that day she likes them, she is wild and silly, and knows exactly what she wants and doesn’t back down.  Despite their differences they are both amazing and I love their uniqueness.

Yes, you can totally get lucky twice.

The Forever Question Set

The Forever Question Set

When I was asked to be a Talk Back Guest at the B Street Theatre for their new play, The Forever Question, by James Christy,  I was initially flattered and then intrigued about play’s premise. It is about a couple who is asking the question about whether or not they should have a second baby.  

My Favorite Date

My Favorite Date

I had a plus one, so I took my favorite date, my husband.

First of all this play did not disappoint. At. All.  The performances by the actors Dana Brooke, who plays the mom, Carolyn, and Peter Story, who plays the dad, Mike were phenomenal!  They are so talented and engaging and we both laugh out loud throughout the play. Not only did they play the parents, they played minor characters in the show, as well. In different scenes they played each other's parents.  They played younger and older versions of themselves. I even almost cried a couple of times but decided I couldn't have my makeup running if I was going to have to get on stage after the show.

I love how the flashback scenes went back to big moments in their lives that had influenced where they were now.  They visited first dates, each other’s “sex talk” with their parents. The play is full of so many relatable scenes.

You should go see this play.  You will be sure to laugh. Even my husband, who tends to be the more stoic of the two of us, couldn’t help but laugh.  Each connection, smile and laugh my husband and I shared, upped the ante on the enjoyment factor. We need those moments with our partners.  Studies even show that when you laugh with your partner there are increase in your relationship quality.  So anytime you have a chance to enjoy each other you should do it.   

And thanks to the B Street Theatre I have 3 chances for you to win some free tickets for you and your best date too.  Hop on over to Instagram to check it out.

Celebrate Your Relationship in Small Ways on Valentine’s Day & Every Day

When we become parents, it’s natural for our priorities to shift. But that doesn’t mean you can scratch your relationship off your list. This week, I share 10 simple, free ways you can express your love on Valentine’s Day or any day, plus you can grab my Couples Conversation Starters download for FREE!

Why You Need to Prioritize Your Partner Even After Baby

Your relationship is your parenting foundation. You need each other. Not only logistically, but also emotionally. I’ve got three simple suggestions for you to make sure both your and your partner’s needs are met every day.  If you only do these three things while raising little ones at home, you’ll be ahead of the game.

New & Expecting Parents, Here's My Question to You for 2019!

Ah, there’s something about a new year that always feels like a clean slate.  Even if you’re not a resolution-setter.

But, if you think about it, each new day is also a clean slate.

I’m a big fan of keeping things simple.  

So, even though today I have a really big question to ask you, when you actually put the question to practice in your day-to-day, the answer is really in the small, simple things you do each day.

How to Combat Holiday Chaos with Little Moments of Connection

With the increase of travel, extended family dynamics, and close-quarters accommodations, the holidays can be like a pressure cooker for our relationships.  

Now, I can’t discuss all the ins-and-outs of all those family dynamics and how to navigate each one in a single blog post, BUT—I CAN tell you about some ways that you can stay in-tune with your partner during this beautiful, amazing, crazy-making time when you’re crashing on the air mattress at your mother-in-law’s house after spending 22 hours in various airports and only had two diaper explosions to deal with….  

So, you guessed it--that’s what I’m sharing in this week’s video below!  

When the Holidays are Hard: How to Create Meaningful Moments When Things Aren't How They're "Supposed to Be"

As if waiting on your baby’s debut (early, late or right on time?) or bringing baby home (Congratulations, here’s your baby.  Now go home and figure out how to be parents!) wasn’t stressful enough, bringing home a winter baby means you’re dealing with all of this in the context of the holiday hustle.  

It’s like a beautiful, fragile snow globe of wants, needs, and expectations swirling around you, with you, your partner and baby at the center.

The good news is, you can get through it. I’ve got some tips to help.

Bringing Baby Home... During the Holidays

As if waiting on your baby’s debut (early, late or right on time?) or bringing baby home (Congratulations, here’s your baby.  Now go home and figure out how to be parents!) wasn’t stressful enough, bringing home a winter baby means you’re dealing with all of this in the context of the holiday hustle.  

It’s like a beautiful, fragile snow globe of wants, needs, and expectations swirling around you, with you, your partner and baby at the center.

The good news is, you can get through it. I’ve got some tips to help.

How to Create the Holidays You Want For Your Family

The holiday season can cause some conflict in our relationships. So, today, I want to talk to you about how to create the holiday traditions you REALLY want.  

That includes compromises that feel good to both you and your partner and clear boundary-setting that communicate what you won’t do, but also what you can do.

It all starts with a heart-to-heart with your partner, where you ask each other some key questions.

Slowing Down to Make Space for Gratitude

And seriously, if we are already busy multitaskers, how in the world are we going to fit in one more task like journaling into our already overflowing days?  

There’s really only one way.  You guessed it: SLOW DOWN.

So, in this week’s video, I’m talking about literally HOW we can slow down. And, for once, I’m not going to tell you to delegate tasks or scratch to-do’s off your list so you can do less.  Because who are we kidding? The holidays are upon us.

How to Make Gratitude a Daily Practice to Feel Happier, Healthier & More Connected

If you’ve been on social media lately, I’m guessing your feed has been inundated with three things in the last week:  Halloween photos, midterm election posts, and 30-day gratitude challenge posts.

By now, the Halloween posts are probably waning.  The election posts--or political posts in general--don’t show any signs of stopping though.  But, at least right now, there are more celebratory posts than angry rants, right?

And if you haven’t seen any gratitude posts on your feed, then you’re clearly not following me on Instagram or Facebook, because I’ve been posting a video each day sharing one thing I’m grateful for.  So far, I’m really loving this challenge. And I’m seeing others post things they’re grateful for too, which is a lot of fun.

And actually, that’s right in line with what I want to talk to you about today:  How and why you should start a gratitude practice.

Honoring the Baby You Lost

Maybe you need catharsis or maybe you just need a way to connect with joy rather than sadness when you think of them.  It might be something you do once and never again or it might become an annual tradition. Maybe it’s a very private, intimate thing or maybe it’s surrounded by your most important support people.  Maybe it’s something you even do publicly with the intent of connecting with others to heal together.

The point is, there are so many ways to do it and there’s no timeline for this.  When you’re ready, I want to encourage you to find a way that feels good to you.

4 Things to Know About Grief

Grief affects every one of us sooner or later.

I’ve been talking all month about the specific grief that comes from losing a pregnancy or losing your baby.  There’s no other kind of grief that is quite like it.

And, unfortunately, it’s a quiet grief.  It’s not one we talk about much. There are so many reasons why.

But I also want to acknowledge that grief is something we all come to understand.  Like it or not, it is a part of life. In a way, that creates room for empathy in every one of us, even if our grief is different from someone else’s.

Resources for Parents Grieving a Miscarriage or Baby Loss

Last week, I talked to you briefly about how October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month.  1 in 4 women will experience a miscarriage or lose their baby. This means that you definitely know someone in your family or social circle who has experienced this.  

So, today, I want to share some resources I rely on with you that might help you if you’re struggling with this or know someone who is.