Honest Insights for Expecting Couples
Come join me for Mine, Yours, Ours: Relationship Survival for Baby's First Year to learn all the stuff the books and doctors don't tell you, so you can thrive as parents and partners.
If I had a dollar for every time I’ve said “Your partner is not a mind reader”....
I know. It never feels very good to have to make the same request over and over. It feels just as bad or worse to feel unheard, unnoticed or not considered.
The thing is, it’s important to make your feelings heard and state your needs. It’s equally important to get your message across in a way that will be received. Sometimes our delivery, though authentic, can make our partners defensive or cause them to tune us out.
If you feel this way, it’s not necessarily that you’re doing it wrong. Couples are automatically more sensitive to each other, simply because couples are attached in a deeper way than we are with other people in our lives. (Ever had your partner’s grouchy mood affect your day long after they left the house? This is why.)
That said, we all can always do a little better when it comes to communicating with our partners. Luckily for all of us, it’s a skill we can learn, not a fixed sign of incompatibility.
Your relationship is not doomed to endless nagging!
Recently, I was interviewed for a piece on PsychCentral.com that discusses this more in depth. Check it out and learn:
The exact formula for how to state your hurt or frustration in a way that doesn’t blame your partner--so you actually get heard.
When to state what you need. (Hint: it’s a weekly habit!)
How gratitude and noticing can get you more of what you want.
What to say when all else fails.
(If you feel that your relationship needs extra coaching with this, let’s have a chat. I can help.)
WORKSHOP FOR EXPECTING COUPLES: Mine Yours Ours: Relationship Survival Guide for Baby’s First Year
COMMUNITY FOR WOMEN: Calm Collective
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