Ah, self-care. This is something that takes constant work to master. (Does anyone ever really "master" it?) Sometimes I'm great at it. Other times, not so much. And when I fall out of the habit, I have to bring my attention back to it (sometimes after my husband calls me out on it!) and work it back into my routine.
If you haven't already noticed that our roles and methods as parents are constantly changing, you will soon enough. Babies and kids are great at keeping us on our toes! So, a little flexibility and forgiving ourselves can go a long way. This is also true for our self-care routines.
Not only that, but it's so important to recognize that self-care is not just an indulgence--it's as vital as making sure our kids are fed. I can't emphasize that difference enough. It can make all the difference in our patience levels, in our ability to use good judgment, in our ability to simply enjoy being a parent. We can't give our best when we don't feel our best.
I was recently asked about this by Margarita Tartakofsky, MS for PsychCentral. You can check out our Q&A here. In it, I talk about what works for me, how my partner helps me with it, and why self-care is so important for our children (not just ourselves).
Click through to read: "The Challenge of Practicing Self-Care as a Parent: Q&A with Catherine O'Brien, LMFT"
What does your current self-care routine look like? How have you had to adjust your self-care to fit your lifestyle as a parent?
If you're a mom and self-care is something you struggle with, be sure to check out my upcoming workshop and group therapy series on finding calm as a momma. You'll learn actionable techniques you can start using right away to recenter and find peace and clarity in the midst of your busy world.
And, if you're expecting, you can set yourself up for future success now with my upcoming workshop, "Yours, Mine, Ours: Relationship Survival for Baby's First Year." In it, you and your partner will learn how to maintain that connection amidst all the new changes a baby will bring through check-ins, self-care and creating a postpartum plan. This one is a can't-miss!