motherhood

Manage Your Task List Like a Boss Even with a New Baby at Home

Last week, I showed you how to use my Postpartum Support Matrix worksheet to help you determine where you need extra help right now and over the long term.  

This week, I’m showing you the next step:  How to manage it all and make sure everything is getting done, even if it’s not you doing every single thing.  

(And, in doing this, if you discover that it IS you doing every single thing, you’ll also discover how to pass those things off to someone else.)

One of the most common things I hear from new moms is that they suddenly feel like there are so many more things they have to do now.  The chores seem to multiply literally overnight!

But you can totally handle it like a boss. Here’s how.

How to Start Asking for Support When You Don't Even Know What to Ask For

Are you a new mom or dad that feels like you’re doing too much and can’t keep up? 

Are you so overwhelmed or exhausted that you can’t even think of what to delegate when people ask how they can help?

Or, maybe asking people for help just feels too hard, but you’d love to try to let yourself off the hook a little?

I get it.  Completely.  

For one thing, as a mom,  I’ve been there myself. For another, this is something that comes up in my therapy practice ALL the time.

That’s why I created two tools that can help. You can download both of them here.

A Conversation Around Community: Catherine O'Brien Interviews Dr. Jacqueline Schoemaker Holmes

One of the most common issues moms bring up to me is that it’s so hard to find their mom tribe.  Whether it’s online or in real life, it’s hard to figure out where we fit in or find that place where we can feel supported and not judged for our choices, fears and struggles.  

But, why is it so hard to find these mom friends?  And how do we succeed in finding them?

MMHA Month Recap: Perinatal Mood Disorders, Sharing Your Story, & Simplifying Motherhood *BONUS RESOURCES INSIDE*

Well, May has come and gone and summer is in full swing.  But, just because Maternal Mental Health Awareness Month is over doesn’t mean the conversation is over.  Maternal Mental Health is important 365 days a year.

So, we might be well into June by now, but I want to recap what we discussed in the last month and share with you some weekly tips videos I did over on my Facebook page. PLUS, TWO FREE DOWNLOADS INSIDE!

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Michelle Peterson

Mommas, I'm so excited to share this interview with Michelle Peterson with you!

Michelle Peterson is the author of the book 'Seven Sisters for Seven Days: A Mothers' Manual for Community-Based Postpartum Care', She empowers new mothers with resources to get the care they need in the postpartum period.

Click through to watch the interview, read the transcript or learn more about Michelle.

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Cassie Owens, LPC

Mommas, I'm so excited to share this interview with Cassie Owens, LPC with you!

Cassie is a therapist specializing in maternal mental health and the Vice President of the Georgia Chapter of Postpartum International. 

Click through to watch the interview, read the transcript or learn more about Cassie.

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Elizabeth O'Brien

Mommas, I'm so excited to share this interview with Elizabeth O'Brien with you!

Elizabeth is a feminist, a mother of three, wife, entrepreneur, trainer, supervisor, consultant and psychotherapist specializing in Perinatal Mental Health.  She also serves as the state coordinator and President of PSI Georgia Chapter.

Click through to watch the interview, read the transcript or learn more about Desiree.

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Jessica Porten

Jessica Porten is a mother of two from Sacramento, CA.  She is an activist and advocate for moms and maternal mental health issues.  Jessica made waves when her Facebook post about seeking help for her postpartum depression from her OBGYN went viral overnight.  She now partners with 2020Mom to provide maternal mental health resources and lobby for legislative change to improve conditions for new and expecting mothers.

Click through to watch the interview, read the transcript and learn more about Jessica.

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Nikki Reeves

Mommas, I'm so excited to share this interview with Nikki Reeves with you! 

Today, Catherine O'Brien, LMFT interviews Nikki Reeves. Nikki is a mom to two boys, an advocate for moms everywhere, and the founder of the incredibly successful Facebook group, Maternal Mental Health Support.

Click through to watch the interview, read the transcript or learn more about Nikki.

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Jennifer Moyer

May is Maternal Mental Health Awareness Month, so I've relaunched my "Momma Interviews" series--This time with an extra special set of moms.  These mommas also work to support other moms and their families during the transition into new parenthood and beyond.  I'm calling it the "Expert Edition", but I think you'll find that while these women definitely are experts in their work, parenthood has a way of making a beginner out of everybody.  Even experts get surprised by the unexpected and learn new bits of wisdom while in the trenches! 

Mommas, I'm so excited to share this interview with Jennifer Moyer with you! 

Jennifer is a mental health advocate, speaker, and author of the book, A Mother's Climb Out of Darkness: A Story About Overcoming Postpartum Psychosis.

Guest Blog: 5 Tips for Healing Postpartum Depression & Anxiety from a Holistic Nutritionist

The recent coverage of celebrity mothers, like Chrissy Teigen, discussing how they came to discover that the unsettling feelings they experienced after giving birth was called postpartum depression sheds light on an interesting dialogue we need to have with women: becoming a mother is not always going to be a beautifully exciting time in a mother’s life; and that’s okay. The idea that a mother should love her new baby - or even the more seemingly inclusive sentiment that every woman has the baby blues - perpetuates the myth that women are supposed to be emotionally ready to be a mother by the time the baby comes into the world. It’s that myth that continues to fuel the stigma of maternal mental health and impedes women from getting the support that they need to develop a healthy parenting identity.

Visitors or no visitors? Managing friends and family after baby arrives

“I just had my baby 4 days ago and I feel like I haven’t been able to spend alone time with her at all. My family and friends keep calling and stopping by the house without warning. I don’t want to be mean by telling them not to come over, but I really just want time to bond with my baby right now. Is that bad? What should I do?”


If you’re reading this because you’re having a similar problem, let me just start by telling you that you’re not bad. You’re not selfish. You’re also not alone. Far from it.

When You’re a Mom & She Isn’t

Motherhood is a rite of passage.  It’s a kind of life (and a kind of love) that you can only truly understand if you’re also a mom yourself.  So, what about our friends that haven’t birthed babies or otherwise become parents to little humans? 

I often hear from moms that it feels like there’s a disconnect in the friendship once one of the two has become a mom.  And sure, sometimes relationships run their course and not everyone is meant to be in our lives forever.  BUT…  still.  Isn’t it kind of a shame sometimes?

Tips for Navigating Mom Groups on Facebook

How do you feel about mom groups on Facebook?

I’ve been asking around about how other moms feel about mom groups on Facebook and other social media and the funny thing is, I’m met with groans every time.  I’m not surprised, really. More just disappointed for moms everywhere.

I guess we probably should have predicted this.  Road rage has been a problem for probably decades.  Social media trolling, though relatively newer, comes out of a similar mentality.  

Moms Deserve Better: Resources for Moms with Postpartum Depression & Anxiety

A recent Facebook post went viral about a mother who was seeking help for Postpartum Depression, but instead of her being able to get the help she was seeking, it resulted in the cops being called, the mother feeling “more broken”, and with still no services in place to help her.  This is not OK.

 

Surviving Sick Days with Your Baby or Toddler

Is it just me, or does it seem like this year’s cold and flu season is particularly rough?  Lately, it seems like everyone has taken the hit.  It has definitely shaken things up a bit at my household already.  

 

In January’s issue of Real Simple magazine, they put out a great article on how to survive sick days.  (The advice in it is genius.  It’s worth checking out.)  But, the focus is mostly on families with older kids.  And it hit me: Why haven’t I talked about sick days with babies and toddlers on the blog before??  So, that’s what I want to dig into now because I think there are some specific things to note when your baby or toddler gets sick.

Confessions of a Marriage Therapist: 2017 Reflections

I don’t know about you, but I’m still riding high on new year’s vibes.  I’m so excited for what’s in store this year and am feeling really optimistic about what this year will bring for all of us.  One of the ways that I like to welcome the new year and honor myself for what I’ve lived through in the past year is to do a yearly reflection.  (I posted a blog about this last January.)  This helps me to really think about all the things I actually did do in the last 12 months, and not get discouraged by all the things I didn’t do.  And to kick things off for us this year, I made a short video telling you about how I was introduced to this practice and why I think you should try it too.

PLUS, a FREE DOWNLOAD INSIDE!

Video: Confessions of a Marriage Therapist "Goals & Feelings"

This week's video is all about how, after I had run myself ragged as a mom, I finally learned to focus on how I want to FEEL over what I want to accomplish. 

 

In it, I tell you about my 3 favorite ways to start focusing on the right things.  With some practice, these habits will help you to naturally create your ideal day. 

6 Ways to Stop Taking Things Personally as a Mom

When you’re a mom, the unsolicited advice and passing criticisms from others can come out of nowhere sometimes.  

 

Because the holidays tend to bring about more family gatherings and social events, this can set us up for a lot of opportunity to to be on the receiving end of those comments.  Not to mention, with all the added stress and hustle that the holidays often bring with them, we might be feeling just a bit more frazzled or sensitive than other times of the year.  As if being a parent to babies and small children isn’t challenging enough.