How to Cope When Your Partner Has Postpartum Depression

What is it like as a dad or co-parent when your partner has Postpartum Depression or Anxiety?  Well, "difficult" would be an understatement.  Imagine you and your partner have the baby you’ve always wanted, but mom is just not herself anymore and you don’t know how to make things better.  It can feel helpless or hopeless.  It can feel frustrating.  You might feel angry or impulsive.  Or worried or sad.  Or numb.  Or way too preoccupied with tending to her needs and feelings that you have no idea how you even feel about it.

3 Simple Steps to Quit Keeping Score in Your Parenting Relationship

Remember back when you had roommates and it was so easy to divvy up the chores list and make sure everyone paid their share of the bills?  And if someone wasn’t pulling their weight, it was really clear, right?  Everyone knew who the lame roommate was and a simple house meeting could nip it in the bud or that roommate would be finding a new place.

New Dads: What is Your Role After Baby Arrives?

First-time dads, do you (or did you) ever feel like you’re unsure of what you’re supposed to even do in those first few weeks after bringing baby home?  

Do you (or did you) feel like you don’t even exist or that there’s not much reason for you to be around because the baby needs mom and mom is doing it all?

 

Every new parent will tell you that those first few weeks after baby comes home are rough.  

Securing Childcare: Questions to Ask to Get the Best Fit for Your Family

Finding childcare for your little ones can be an incredibly overwhelming thing for new parents--especially if you are bracing yourself to go back to work for the first time.  

 

There’s so much to think about just logistically:  the research involved, phone calls to make, interviews to conduct, budgeting to figure out, and so on.  And when you factor in all the emotions that come with it--The guilt! Oh, the guilt!--it can almost feel like too much to handle on top of everything else you already have to do everyday.

Summer Travel Plans? Keep Your Toddlers & Kids Occupied & Happy While Traveling with These Clever Ideas

Ah, summer travel…  Second maybe only to the Christmas/Chanukah season, this is probably the most popular time for travel.  Vacations are always worth it--it’s great family bonding and relaxation time for parents, and little ones always have a blast when experiencing new things.  But, let’s be honest:  the traveling to and from our incredible family vacations is not always so restful.  Or even pleasant.  Whether flying or driving, the challenges often the same--keeping our little ones content and occupied.

Creating Your Kid-Friendly Lifestyle: How to Work In All the Important Stuff from Boring Chores to Fave Hobbies

So often in my practice, I see women who are struggling with a loss of identity now that they're a mom.  I also see many parents--both moms and dads--who feel like it just isn't feasible for them to continue certain activities.  That it would be impossible for them to enjoy it, to focus, or do it the way they want to with a little one tagging along.  It can feel very literally like a monkey on your back while you're trying to do your thing.  Or, like you can't just lose yourself in the activity because you have this other person to tend to. 

Catherine O'Brien featured in PsychCentral's "Mothering Lessons" Article

Motherhood has a way of catalyzing change and growth.  It's like the one great equalizer:  Motherhood doesn't care if you're a so-called "expert" or not.  We ALL struggle.  And we all acquire our own set of mothering wisdom to share. 

This week, I had the pleasure of being featured on PsychCentral's article, "Women Reveal the Biggest Lessons Mothering Has Taught Them."  I'd love it if you'd check it out.  Then, share your own wise mothering lessons in the comments!

Slow Down For Summer: Being Present with your Family without the Guilt

Fourth of July weekend will soon be upon us.  This is a popular time for many of us to make lasting memories from barbecues to fireworks.  For my family, this is typically vacation time and we all look forward to it every year.  

 

It is with this in mind that I want to talk about the importance of slowing down and just being present with our families.  So easily, our lives can become a rapid pace of go-go-go.  There’s school and work and extracurriculars and birthday parties.  (Don’t even get me started on the holiday season or back-to-school time!)  If your littles are too small for this hustle to be your norm yet, consider yourself lucky.  And really, that’s all the more reason to enjoy this slower pace now.  It doesn’t last.  Nothing does, does it?  That’s exactly the point.

Dads Who Are Rocking at Parenting

Last week, in anticipation of Father’s Day, I talked on the blog about ways that dads can get involved during those first few weeks after baby comes home.  This week, I want to continue the conversation about dads by looking at the bigger picture:  Why dads matter so much and why the experience of fatherhood is so profound.

By now, we’ve all probably heard some statistic or another about how kids are likely to perform better in school, live more healthfully, be better behaved, and grow up to be more successful in life.  You also may or may not know that the relationship the father has with the mother of his child can have significant impacts on her chances of postpartum depression after baby arrives.

Ways Dad Can Help Out in the First Weeks of Parenthood and Why Mom Should Let Him

Fathers Day is just days away, so in honor of all the World's Best Dads everywhere, I thought I'd share my best tips for new dads (and parenting partners) so that you can come into your own as a daddy.  I think it's often assumed that dads will just step up after the baby arrives (and more often than not, YOU DO!), but we all say it so casually--as if it isn't just as disorienting, confusing, challenging or exhausting for dad as it is for moms. 

That really isn't fair, is it? 

Catherine O'Brien, LMFT featured on "The Family Couch" Podcast

Parents and Parents-to-be, this is so good:  Catherine O'Brien, LMFT was featured on the podcast "The Family Couch", hosted by Mercedes Samudio, LCSW.  In it, they discuss what surprised Catherine the most when she first became a mom, how to make sure both parents are connecting with baby (and with each other) and feel supported and empowered, and they even take on the "mommy wars" hot-button issue to help moms move past the judgment and guilt.  Catherine gives the top three questions she asks every parent to consider at every stage of their parenting and how to have a plan but also remain flexible enough to change or modify your plans when life throws you curve balls. 

Guest Blog: Simplify Your Life So You Can Focus on Family

Written by WENDY ROHIN, PT, DPT

 

Parenting in the modern world is unnecessarily cluttered with distractions and multitasking. Unfortunately–despite all the current advances and technology of our time–no one has yet to invent the SuperMom pill. (Don’t worry, I’m working on it.) So, in the meantime, you have to prioritize with intention, or the important things (people) will become neglected and…well…less important. Please, read on if you interested in some ideas on how to simplify your life and focus on family.

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Alicia Taverner

For our last Expert Momma Interview of the month, I'm speaking with Alicia Taverner, LMFT.  Alicia is a mom of two (with a third on the way!), has experience with both foster parenting and adoption, and is also a therapist who supports women in their relationship struggles, such as infidelity, divorce and break-up.  I love her honesty in struggling to ask for help and her message about remembering the purpose of what we're doing is so powerful.

 

Watch the interview, read the transcript, or learn more about Alicia.

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Rebekah Fedrowitz

Today's conversation is with Rebekah Fedrowitz, mom to a busy toddler and holistic nutritionist whose aim is to support busy moms on their own path to wellness. She's got a lot to say about balance and perfection (her perspective on how quitting one area of her life would change everything is so poignant), and RuMe tote bags and Daniel Tiger.  Oh, and her fave motherhood quote is, well, perfection....

 

Watch the video, read the transcript, or learn more about Rebekah.

Guest Blog: Caring for Your Parents and Your Babies: What I Learned During My Son’s First Year

Written by Kate Turza

 

When my son was 10 months old, I found out I was pregnant with our second child.  So, like most young families, we made the decision to move out of our “starter house” and into our “forever house”.  Finally, when my second was 5 months old we moved into our “forever” home.  Life was good.  Two babies, beautiful house, happy mom & dad.  

A couple weeks after moving into our house, my father (who had been living with Multiple Sclerosis for almost 30 years) went in for a routine surgical procedure. All went well with the surgery, I talked to my dad (who was still loopy) on the phone and promised I would be up to see him the next day. 

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Cassie Owens, LPC

Today, I'm chatting with Cassie Owens, LPC.  She's a mom of two in Atlanta, GA, and is a licensed professional counselor specializing in maternal mental health.  She's got some great advice that every mom should prioritize in her life (ahem, boundaries!).  And I also find her story really interesting because she's a prime example of a mom who didn't experience any postpartum mood disorders with her first baby, but did experience postpartum anxiety and depression with her second--which just goes to show that there are so many variables at play and it's so hard to predict how you'll feel. 

Watch the interview, read the transcript or learn more about Cassie and her work. 

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Jo Muirhead

Mommas, I'm so excited to share this interview with Jo Muirhead with you!  If you need to hear a fresh new perspective on motherhood, here it is.  Jo is a working mom to her 16-year old son, has lived through divorce and postpartum depression, and has come out the other side with such a beautiful connection to her son and her family.  I love the way she was able to follow her convictions and her gut even in the most trying of times, and her discovery that family is a choice to show up for the ones you choose to love is so refreshing.  Check it out and let me know what you think!

Watch the interview, read the transcript or learn more about Jo.

Guest Blog: 5 Considerations to Safeguard Against Postpartum Depression

Written by Brittni Fudge, MA, LPC, NCC

 

Up to 20% of pregnant and new moms will experience some form of anxiety or mood disorder.  This is a staggering number—especially considering these statistics are gathered based only on what women report.  Due to the stigma around mental health, many women don’t report their depression or anxiety to healthcare professionals, so it’s likely that that number is higher.  Pregnant moms often ask me if there’s anything they can do to prevent postpartum depression.

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Lindsay Lipton Gerszt

This week, I give you Lindsay Lipton Gerszt, Executive Producer of the new documentary film, When the Bough Breaks - a Documentary about Postpartum Depression.  Mommas, I am so excited about this interview!  Not only does Lindsay have one of those dreamy career trajectories that just makes you want to learn all about her--from Los Angeles music industry executive to documentary film producer--but she also has such an important message and story to tell.  As a momma who has suffered from severe postpartum depression, she has some powerful honesty and wisdom to share. 

Watch the interview, read the transcript or learn more about Lindsay and the documentary film.

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Shana Averbach, LMFT

Shana Averbach, LMFT is a mom and psychologist who specializes in perinatal mental health in San Francisco, CA.  We had such a great conversation together.  I love the way she is able to talk about how she works through her moments of self-doubt.  And the connections she's made between observing new moms use trial and error to soothe their babies and how we can apply that flexibility to other areas of our lives.

Watch the video, read the transcript or get more info about Shana.