Slow Down For Summer: Being Present with your Family without the Guilt

Fourth of July weekend will soon be upon us.  This is a popular time for many of us to make lasting memories from barbecues to fireworks.  For my family, this is typically vacation time and we all look forward to it every year.  

 

It is with this in mind that I want to talk about the importance of slowing down and just being present with our families.  So easily, our lives can become a rapid pace of go-go-go.  There’s school and work and extracurriculars and birthday parties.  (Don’t even get me started on the holiday season or back-to-school time!)  If your littles are too small for this hustle to be your norm yet, consider yourself lucky.  And really, that’s all the more reason to enjoy this slower pace now.  It doesn’t last.  Nothing does, does it?  That’s exactly the point.

Dads Who Are Rocking at Parenting

Last week, in anticipation of Father’s Day, I talked on the blog about ways that dads can get involved during those first few weeks after baby comes home.  This week, I want to continue the conversation about dads by looking at the bigger picture:  Why dads matter so much and why the experience of fatherhood is so profound.

By now, we’ve all probably heard some statistic or another about how kids are likely to perform better in school, live more healthfully, be better behaved, and grow up to be more successful in life.  You also may or may not know that the relationship the father has with the mother of his child can have significant impacts on her chances of postpartum depression after baby arrives.

Ways Dad Can Help Out in the First Weeks of Parenthood and Why Mom Should Let Him

Fathers Day is just days away, so in honor of all the World's Best Dads everywhere, I thought I'd share my best tips for new dads (and parenting partners) so that you can come into your own as a daddy.  I think it's often assumed that dads will just step up after the baby arrives (and more often than not, YOU DO!), but we all say it so casually--as if it isn't just as disorienting, confusing, challenging or exhausting for dad as it is for moms. 

That really isn't fair, is it? 

Catherine O'Brien, LMFT featured on "The Family Couch" Podcast

Parents and Parents-to-be, this is so good:  Catherine O'Brien, LMFT was featured on the podcast "The Family Couch", hosted by Mercedes Samudio, LCSW.  In it, they discuss what surprised Catherine the most when she first became a mom, how to make sure both parents are connecting with baby (and with each other) and feel supported and empowered, and they even take on the "mommy wars" hot-button issue to help moms move past the judgment and guilt.  Catherine gives the top three questions she asks every parent to consider at every stage of their parenting and how to have a plan but also remain flexible enough to change or modify your plans when life throws you curve balls. 

Guest Blog: Simplify Your Life So You Can Focus on Family

Written by WENDY ROHIN, PT, DPT

 

Parenting in the modern world is unnecessarily cluttered with distractions and multitasking. Unfortunately–despite all the current advances and technology of our time–no one has yet to invent the SuperMom pill. (Don’t worry, I’m working on it.) So, in the meantime, you have to prioritize with intention, or the important things (people) will become neglected and…well…less important. Please, read on if you interested in some ideas on how to simplify your life and focus on family.

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Alicia Taverner

For our last Expert Momma Interview of the month, I'm speaking with Alicia Taverner, LMFT.  Alicia is a mom of two (with a third on the way!), has experience with both foster parenting and adoption, and is also a therapist who supports women in their relationship struggles, such as infidelity, divorce and break-up.  I love her honesty in struggling to ask for help and her message about remembering the purpose of what we're doing is so powerful.

 

Watch the interview, read the transcript, or learn more about Alicia.

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Rebekah Fedrowitz

Today's conversation is with Rebekah Fedrowitz, mom to a busy toddler and holistic nutritionist whose aim is to support busy moms on their own path to wellness. She's got a lot to say about balance and perfection (her perspective on how quitting one area of her life would change everything is so poignant), and RuMe tote bags and Daniel Tiger.  Oh, and her fave motherhood quote is, well, perfection....

 

Watch the video, read the transcript, or learn more about Rebekah.

Guest Blog: Caring for Your Parents and Your Babies: What I Learned During My Son’s First Year

Written by Kate Turza

 

When my son was 10 months old, I found out I was pregnant with our second child.  So, like most young families, we made the decision to move out of our “starter house” and into our “forever house”.  Finally, when my second was 5 months old we moved into our “forever” home.  Life was good.  Two babies, beautiful house, happy mom & dad.  

A couple weeks after moving into our house, my father (who had been living with Multiple Sclerosis for almost 30 years) went in for a routine surgical procedure. All went well with the surgery, I talked to my dad (who was still loopy) on the phone and promised I would be up to see him the next day. 

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Cassie Owens, LPC

Today, I'm chatting with Cassie Owens, LPC.  She's a mom of two in Atlanta, GA, and is a licensed professional counselor specializing in maternal mental health.  She's got some great advice that every mom should prioritize in her life (ahem, boundaries!).  And I also find her story really interesting because she's a prime example of a mom who didn't experience any postpartum mood disorders with her first baby, but did experience postpartum anxiety and depression with her second--which just goes to show that there are so many variables at play and it's so hard to predict how you'll feel. 

Watch the interview, read the transcript or learn more about Cassie and her work. 

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Jo Muirhead

Mommas, I'm so excited to share this interview with Jo Muirhead with you!  If you need to hear a fresh new perspective on motherhood, here it is.  Jo is a working mom to her 16-year old son, has lived through divorce and postpartum depression, and has come out the other side with such a beautiful connection to her son and her family.  I love the way she was able to follow her convictions and her gut even in the most trying of times, and her discovery that family is a choice to show up for the ones you choose to love is so refreshing.  Check it out and let me know what you think!

Watch the interview, read the transcript or learn more about Jo.

Guest Blog: 5 Considerations to Safeguard Against Postpartum Depression

Written by Brittni Fudge, MA, LPC, NCC

 

Up to 20% of pregnant and new moms will experience some form of anxiety or mood disorder.  This is a staggering number—especially considering these statistics are gathered based only on what women report.  Due to the stigma around mental health, many women don’t report their depression or anxiety to healthcare professionals, so it’s likely that that number is higher.  Pregnant moms often ask me if there’s anything they can do to prevent postpartum depression.

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Lindsay Lipton Gerszt

This week, I give you Lindsay Lipton Gerszt, Executive Producer of the new documentary film, When the Bough Breaks - a Documentary about Postpartum Depression.  Mommas, I am so excited about this interview!  Not only does Lindsay have one of those dreamy career trajectories that just makes you want to learn all about her--from Los Angeles music industry executive to documentary film producer--but she also has such an important message and story to tell.  As a momma who has suffered from severe postpartum depression, she has some powerful honesty and wisdom to share. 

Watch the interview, read the transcript or learn more about Lindsay and the documentary film.

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Shana Averbach, LMFT

Shana Averbach, LMFT is a mom and psychologist who specializes in perinatal mental health in San Francisco, CA.  We had such a great conversation together.  I love the way she is able to talk about how she works through her moments of self-doubt.  And the connections she's made between observing new moms use trial and error to soothe their babies and how we can apply that flexibility to other areas of our lives.

Watch the video, read the transcript or get more info about Shana.

Guest Blog: The Stigma of Maternal Mental Health Keeps Women in The Dark Ages

The recent coverage of celebrity mothers, like Chrissy Teigen, discussing how they came to discover that the unsettling feelings they experienced after giving birth was called postpartum depression sheds light on an interesting dialogue we need to have with women: becoming a mother is not always going to be a beautifully exciting time in a mother’s life; and that’s okay. The idea that a mother should love her new baby - or even the more seemingly inclusive sentiment that every woman has the baby blues - perpetuates the myth that women are supposed to be emotionally ready to be a mother by the time the baby comes into the world. It’s that myth that continues to fuel the stigma of maternal mental health and impedes women from getting the support that they need to develop a healthy parenting identity.

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Amanda Zaidman

Today, I'm chatting with Amanda Zaidman, LCSW, a parenting coach and mother of two from Charlotte, NC.

Amanda is a mom who prioritizes growth over perfection, mindfulness and dancing to good music.  I love her honesty about her struggles with her first baby and how motherhood has changed how she views her own mother. 

Click through to watch the video, read the transcript or learn more about Amanda.

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition" featuring Dr. Katayune Kaeni

Today, I'm interviewing Dr. Katayune Kaeni.

Katayune Kaeni, Psy.D., is a psychologist specializing maternal mental health and the creator and host of the Mom & Mind Podcast.  In May of last year for Maternal Mental Health Awareness Month, Dr. Kaeni wrote a powerful personal essay about her struggle with postpartum depression and anxiety for the Happy With Baby blog.  And this year, I'm thrilled to have had the chance to interview her face-to-face for you now.

Momma Interviews "Expert Edition": Featuring Arianna Taboada

May is Maternal Mental Health Awareness Month, so I've decided to relaunch my "Momma Interviews" series--This time with an extra special set of moms.  These mommas also work to support other moms and their families during the transition into new parenthood and beyond.  I'm calling it the "Expert Edition", but I think you'll find that while these women definitely are experts in their work, parenthood has a way of making a beginner out of everybody.  Even experts get surprised by the unexpected and learn new bits of wisdom while in the trenches! 

This series is all about their experiences with motherhood, in the hopes that it provides you with some validation and new tips to try.  Because for all the many different ways there are to be a mom (and there are definitely MANY ways to do it right), it's so amazing how much we moms all really have in common.

So, to kick off this series this month, I interviewed Arianna Taboada, a wife and mom of a 1-year old, and a Maternal Health Consultant for Entrepreneurs. I love what she has to say about making motherhood easier and about what surprised her most about motherhood.  Check it out!

7 Calming Tips for Tantrums & Meltdowns

There’s possibly nothing worse than an inconsolable little one in the middle of a meltdown.  It can be heartbreaking and infuriating at the same time.  And if you’re in a public place, it can be downright mortifying at times.  For what it’s worth, momma, EVERY mom has these moments.  Babies and toddlers don’t care if you’re a celebrity or on the phone or have already had a rough day.  So, don’t feel too bad if it happens in public!  So, when it happens to you, here are my 7 best tips to calm your child:

Letting New Parents Off the Hook: Mommas of 2+ Kids Give You Their Best Hacks & Cut You Some Slack!

Being a new mom is an adjustment.  OK, that might be an understatement.  Sometimes, being a new mom is hard, and scary, and nerve-wracking, exhausting, confusing.  Being a new mom can make you question whether you’re even cut out for this.  Whether you’re any good at it.  Why everything in the book isn’t working.  Or, how you surely must be screwing your kid up from the get-go if you don’t do x-y-z right.  Let me tell you:  Every single mom has felt this way at some point.  You’re not alone.

How to Deal When Your Baby Hates the Car

Not all of us win the lottery when it comes to kids and car rides.  Some parents love driving their babies or kids around because they’re guaranteed to knock out during the ride.  Other parents, not so much.  If your baby screams as if they’re being tortured during any drive or if your toddler gets carsick, I know how traumatic it can feel for you, momma.  I have two kids and they are like night and day when it comes to personalities.  Their reactions to car rides….also like night and day.